People often know the Type A perfectionist – prim and proper, tediously organized. The Type B perfectionist is less-known, but increasingly common in today’s world. Type B perfectionists are easy-going and relaxed, but the way they cope with high expectations is through procrastination and avoidance.

We help perfectionists find a middle way; to bring color to a point of view that is often black-and-white. For Type A folks, we can help you discover how flexibility and self-compassion are not excuses, but just a different way of solving a problem. For Type B folks, we can help you recognize just how much you expect of yourself and how to take on bite-sized chunks to better motivate yourself.

Many people believe that they have not experienced trauma because they haven’t experienced rape, war, or a major death. But there is both big-T trauma, like these events, and little-t trauma, like the cumulative impact of having parents who were verbally but not physically abusive. Many people living with complex trauma never get the help they need because they dismiss their pain, believing others have had it worse and need the help far more.

Yet these people live their lives knowing something doesn’t feel quite right. Maybe there are crying spells out of nowhere, a general numbness that never fades, or even anger that arrives unexpectedly. It’s all the sum total of a life where your pain is hidden from plain view and you are expected to act as though everything is fine. Can you really fault your pain for peeking out at times to tell you how badly you’re hurting and how you need someone to help you out?

Whether you’re here on an H1B visa, trying to secure permanent residency, or a long-time citizen that still feels like they don’t belong — we want to walk alongside you in this journey.

As a practice of primarily immigrants, we find great meaning in helping fellow immigrants navigate the hardships of this experience and to find a way to feel home away from home.

Failure to launch is when a younger person is delayed in meeting milestones (such as graduating school, finding work, or pursuing a romantic relationship). Often these folks also struggle with shyness, low self-esteem, and limited life skills. The underlying problem here is a fear of being out of your comfort zone – an absolute need to be safe.

Many people try to motivate failure to launch folks with tough love, but that usually backfires. These folks are already hard enough on themselves without another voice adding to the choir. What they need is for someone to be patient but firm with them, to show care and interest in who they are, while still having expectations of them to grow and find their way in this world.

We also help parents of failure to launch children. One of our therapists, Dr. Carol Deas-Lopez specializes in this area (particularly helping parents whose children struggle with Internet or substance use addiction). Dr. Deas-Lopez runs a support/process group for parents with these very problems.

Social anxiety is the feeling of being around lots of people and still feeling lonely. Or of thinking you’re weird in a way that no normal person would find interesting or relatable.

A key part of social anxiety is feeling other — meaning you don’t belong and you’re different. The work is to learn how to connect, to move away from otherness and toward sameness — what do you have in common with people?

We love working with fellow therapists, especially ones who think of the work in the same depth-oriented way that we do!

Therapists are natural caregivers, giving to others is a natural instinct for us. We’re great at helping other people prioritize self-care, but we don’t look out for ourselves in the same way.

That can change. You need someone who will be as protective of you as you are of those under your care. We’re up for the job.